Insight and Inspiration for Flying Higher in Endeavors that Make a Difference
I felt a slight tug as the passenger-side mirror of the blue Subaru brushed against the fabric of my running shirt.
It didn’t register right away. I remember looking up and seeing a “Love Your Mother” sticker with an illustration of the earth on the car’s bumper and the driver’s outstretched hand waving. I waved back. That’s what you do in a small town here in rural southwestern Virginia.
A loud honk startled me. Another car was trying to turn right onto the road where I stood midway through the crosswalk. Jolted out of my mystified state, I waved at that car and finished jogging across the intersection.
That’s when it hit me. I’d just come within a few inches of being hit by a car on my daily run.
I was shaking uncontrollably. The adrenalin kicked in as my mind wrapped itself around what had just happened. Cautiously I recrossed the street and walked back home to gather myself.
The irony was too obvious to ignore. Just a few days...
Humans are complicated. Can we agree on that? What other creature is capable of holding two diametrically opposed ideas in their head at the same time and simultaneously hold each to be true and still function?
Some people believe the earth is actually flat and still go onround the world cruises. Some people believe Elvis is still alive and also argue that he was murdered.
But this thinking isn't limited to kooks and conspiracy theorists.
I believe that I am enough. I believe you are too, btw. But I also believe that enough is not enough. My guess is you believe the same.
Perfection is impossible. Seeking it only leads to suffering and unhappiness. But progress is possible, and likely when we work on ourselves daily.
So, what will you do today that helps you wake up to a better you tomorrow?
Until next week, keep flying higher!
Of all the lessons I’ve learned (and continue to learn), the biggest have intersected with my struggle with understanding and employing empathy. A struggle I only began coming to terms with when I added a chapter on it to The Stoic Creative Handbook.
The punchline, or rather the truth as I see it, is that empathy begins with yourself. If you cannot connect with your feelings and see, hear, understand, and forgive yourself, then you are incapable of doing so sincerely and authentically with others. Until then your relationship with others and yourself suffer.
To say I’m a lapsed Catholic would be an insult to lapsed Catholics, but when I hear (and recite), first Corinthians, I get a glimpse of the divine. In you, in her, in him, in me, in nature and in the cosmos. And I begin to think that I just might be getting closer to an empathic understanding and appreciation. And this has “saved” me many times from the unhelpful, harmful, and hateful stories I...
Marianne Williamson's quote is a compelling call for us to tap into our curiosity and courage and live bigger and in service to others. It lets us know that we are enough as we are while reminding us that we have unfulfilled promise to develop and deliver.
"Your playing small does not serve the world."
Please don't play small. We need you.
Keep flying higher!
I've earned my living from playing music on stages large and small. Sometimes for festival audiences of thousands, sometimes to the sound of one fan clapping in a small club. Along the way, I learned a few lessons that inspire and inform other life endeavors. Here are my top 10 lessons learned from the stage that apply to living "the good life."
Marcus Aurelius is often called the last of the “good emperors” of the Roman Empire. A man who stood above questioning who questioned himself daily. Marcus’ reminders to himself about the importance of virtue and justice inspire me and many others to this day.
“To live the good life. We have the potential for it. If we can learn to be indifferent to what makes no difference.” — Marcus Aurelius
What does it mean to be human? What does it mean to be happy? These are questions we’ve asked ourselves since the dawn of time. Many of us are overwhelmed by such questions. But here, Marcus reminds himself of his agency over his perceptions, thoughts, and actions and therefore the power he has to maintain his sense of well-being in any situation or circumstance.
In this quote, Marcus is reminding himself of a lesson from one of the ancient world’s greatest teachers, Epictetus: “It isn’t events themselves that disturb...
I love to learn. Don’t you?
The world is full of mystery and wonder, and I am surrounded by people dedicated to developing themselves and doing good in the world. It’s all so fascinating and inspiring.
And of course, there’s plenty of suffering and cause for concern out there too. It can be quite overwhelming. I don’t watch the news much, but when I do I am struck by the level of certainty people express. Especially about things that are incapable of being “known” in an absolute sense.
“It’s impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows.”—Epictetus
How difficult it must be to prop up a “certain” posture. Especially when evidence appears that discredit your position. What recourse is there for the certain but to lash out, call names, and insulate themselves in little guilds of gullibility?
“Curiosity will conquer fear even more than bravery will.”—James Stephens
"Is it time to say 'Goodbye?'"
I ask this question often since the arrival of spring. It's really powerful for "pruning" unnecessary clutter from my life and helping me be more "present" for the work and people in my life that matter.
"We are what we repeatedly do; excellence, then,
is not an act, but a habit." - Aristotle
For instance, I said "Goodbye" to several social media accounts and forums. I said "Sayonara" to my daily coffee habit and glass of wine in addition to sugar and wheat. As a result, I said "adiós" to 10 pounds (with 10 more to go).
I said, "Auf wiedersehen" to the few remaining unhealthy relationships I hadn't yet had the courage to end. I said "Au revoir" to a long list of "opportunities" that were only getting in the way of the work I really love to do.
"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can
start from now and make a brand new ending." - Marcus Aurelius
Saying "Goodbye" isn't always a sad occasion. Especially when...
Although the words emotions and feelings are often used interchangeably, they are very different beasts. Feelings and emotions should not be confused. Emotions precede feelings, both in evolutionary development and in your daily life. However, while emotional responses are instinctual, normal, and healthy, attachment to them often is not.
Emotions Happen to You
Emotions come uninvited or unexpected. A flash of anger when someone cuts you off in traffic. The sudden joy you feel when your child takes her first steps. A surge of jealousy when your partner glances at an attractive passerby. Surprise at an unanticipated compliment. A pang of guilt after you've yelled at your child.
These are naturally occurring, brief, physical responses to stimuli that are hardwired within your limbic system. These impulses bypass your neocortex, where your capacity for reason and language reside.
It's almost impossible, and highly ill-advised,...
Get going with the work you're meant to do now!
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