Insight and Inspiration for Flying Higher in Endeavors that Make a Difference
Do You Know That You’re Lying?
“Let’s start with a quick poll. Raise your hand if you’re a Creative. Great! If your hand is raised, put it back down. Now, raise your hand if you’re not a Creative. That's interesting. Keep your hand raised. Alright, if your hand is raised, keep it raised if you know you’re lying…!”
This poll is how I open my workshops on becoming a “bulletproof creative” (aka a Thriving Artist). The results are always about the same. One-third raise their hands to the opening query, another third to the next, and the final third to the last (often with nervous laughter).
We Are All Creatives
Here’s the deal: everyone is a Creative. A Creative is simply someone who brings something into the world that didn’t previously exist. Every time you make a meal, make a mess, or make amends, you’ve engaged in an act of creation. Creating is an everyday human activity.
Whether you’re a musician,...
I had the great privilege of speaking with Seth Godin for a second time on the Creative On Purpose Broadcast recently. He packed our short time together with a ton of knowledge and insight. But one of the most profound moments was what Seth said about the perils of attachment for creatives (people like us).
I’ve been thinking about this ever since our conversation ended and sharing a few “aha moments” I didn’t see or articulate when Seth suggested I lead off our discussion.
Is the work you do deliberate, inspired, provocative, or significant?
Shouldn’t it be?
What “The Work You’re Meant to Do Now” Is NOT
The work you’re meant to do now is not “what you were born to do.” It’s not the one thing you’re put on the planet for. There is no “one thing” you’re meant to do. There are limitless possible roles for you to play and endless potential jobs for you to do.
Humans are inherently social creatures born with the capacity for reason and creative nature. Where and to whom you’re born certainly influences the development of your beliefs, skills, and connections; but at some point, you gain agency over who you are, what you do, and who you associate with.
Discovering the work you’re meant to do now doesn’t “start with why.” It starts with who. You are not the sum of what you do, how you do it, and why you do what you do. It’s the...
“What Do You Do?”
“What you do” is not necessarily what you do for a living or what you’re employed to do. Too often your “job” employs only hard skills. These are skills you’ve been taught to achieve a specific and measurable outcome.
Hard skills are things we’ve been instructed to use to make widgets, or sales, or repairs or to turn around and instruct others to use. During the industrial economy, acquiring hard skills were required to enter the job market and make a decent living. But with the advent of the digital revolution, the information age, AI, and what Seth Godin calls “the connection economy,” hard skills are becoming increasingly obsolete. Now we need to employ soft skills, or “talents.”
Where hard skills involved physical labor and mental “smarts,” soft skills employ emotional labor and wisdom. The ability to see, hear, and engage...
You know the type. Earnest civilian crosses the aisle or the parking lot, hand extended to someone in military uniform or wearing a retiree’s ball cap.
“Thank you for your service.”
Yeah, that’s me.
The gratitude is heartfelt and the gesture sincere. But I’ve been insensitive.
In working with military service personnel and those who love and support them, I’ve learned that the TYFYS gesture often makes the recipient uneasy and it comes across as a bit hollow.
Recognition is great. Action would be far more meaningful.
And then there’s my bigger offense. I never turn to the left or right of the person whose hand I’m clasping to say to the person by their side, “And thank you for your service, too.”
It’s never even occurred to me.
That’s changed since I led a workshop in goal setting for a group of military spouses.
To prepare for the workshop, I interviewed military...
Are you feeling dissatisfied or frustrated with the work you do now? Feel like you’re not developing or engaging your full potential in whatever endeavor you’re employed? Not executing your full promise?
Maybe you’re wondering, “What’s next?” “What is the work I’m meant to do now?” “What is the work that will help me experience more well-being and fulfillment?”
If these are the kind of questions swirling around your head, you may be tempted to fall into an all-too-familiar trap, pursuing your passion.
What Is “Passion?”
Passion is a result of doing engaging and meaningful work. Passion is not a proper or advisable reason for doing that work.
The path you seek isn’t found on a map. The position you’re searching for is not going to be advertised and no one is going to “pick” you to do it. The work you seek will be earned through persistence and intention coupled with aspiration...
The Power of Acknowledgement
It’s so simple, isn’t it? Someone holds the door open and you say “Thank you.” Someone posts a milestone event or achievement on social media and you “Like” it. You call your folks on a special day. You do this daily, right?
I try. But a new daily practice brings a new depth to my gratitude efforts. Not just saying “thank you” or “Liking” or calling, but intentionally looking for the good in others, connecting and communicating appreciation for a specific gift, lesson or benefit that someone provided to myself or another. Connection, acknowledgment, gratitude. To feel it, you must do it.
The Power of Silence
Ever listened to Miles Davis’ album Kind of Blue? If not, do so, now (you’ll thank me later).
Kind of Blue is the best selling jazz record (ask your parents), of all time. Generally considered the greatest recorded achievement of the iconic...
Creating is simply the act of making something new. However, simple doesn’t mean easy. The creative process can be lonely, intimidating, and fraught with self-doubt. Then comes the hard part...sharing what you made with others.
Do I Have to Share?
That depends. We’re all creatives. We make things, right? We make conversation. We make plans. We make promises, and we make babies. We have absolutely no problem making or sharing these creations. However, when we intentionally create something that will evoke a reaction or even a transformation in others, when we start acting like artists, things change.
Therein lies the rub. All artists are creatives, but not all creatives are artists. Artists create with intention and motivation. They put their creation out into the world. They ship and they deliver the goods.
Artists must share their creations. That's the only way they will get the feedback required to develop and improve their art. Aspiring and advancing artists must...
“For all that I do, whether on my own or assisted by another, should be directed to this single end, the common benefit and harmony.” - Marcus Aurelius
You care. And, of course, you've done your best. You've been understanding and kind. You've loaned advice and offered help. But none of it has worked. So now, all that's left, is to play your trump card...,
"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." - Viktor Frankl
Whoa! Before you get all self-righteous, draw your line in the sand, and launch the "good" fight, maybe take a long look in the mirror and ask yourself a few tough questions.
Did you do your best, or only what was expedient? Was it understanding and kindness on offer or perhaps just enabling? Was it advice and help on loan, or simply lip service? Was it their well-being...
It is impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows." - Epictetus
We are driven by our beliefs. We live by them and die for them. And far too often we cleave to them in the face of evidence that they are not absolutes or even true. We believe that our beliefs define who we are and seek out those who believe what we believe and turn up our nose at, or even rail against, those who do not. But here's the thing...,
beliefs are bogus.
Not always, of course, but far more often than we care to admit. Sadly, these bogus beliefs are usually the ones we cling to most desperately. And this dynamic is doing immense harm to our physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. It's destroying our relationships and, indeed, the planet on which we live.
What to do? It's time we seek out what really defines us. Our values speak to who we truly are.
What's the Difference?
Beliefs are nothing more than opinion or conviction. An internal feeling that...
Get going with the work you're meant to do now!
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