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There’s no roadmap for navigating midlife. Maps can only take you where others have been. If you’re going to find your way to the next best destination for you, you need a compass, and you need to learn how to use it.

In the first half of life, we play the game by society’s rules. Midlife can be a ...

What should you do when you realize you're playing a game you no longer want to play?

Ignore sunk costs and walk away.

I get it. It's hard.

Most  of us over-identify with roles and goals in ways that are unhealthy or nurture our unhappiness.

Or we fall into the identity trap by clinging to roles...

Polarization gets a bad rap, mainly because it is often weaponized in today’s political and cultural wars. But polarization is also a natural and necessary fact.

NOTHING exists without its opposite. Opposition is a part of identity. We know good because we know bad, love thanks to hate, kindness du...

Thoughtful, generous, purpose-driven humans wrestle with two fundamental questions.

"Who am I?" and "What should I do with my life?"

Answering these questions is incredibly fraught.

We possess contradictory natures. We like to know where we fit in and what's expected, and want to stand out and se...

What is purpose (and why does it matter)?

When I found myself broken, lost, and alone at a midlife crossroads, purpose literally saved my life. So, I'm talking about it in case it might save you.

Something that helped me was defining what purpose meant (at least to me).

I decided that purpose is "a rea...

Attention may be our most undervalued resource.

Why?

There are SO many associated costs.

Attention means "to stretch toward."

This means whatever you're paying attention to also costs you time, effort, and energy (at the very least).

What you pay attention to can also impact your identity and r...

Do you struggle to get where you want to be in life, love, or career?

Here's why.

You need more clarity about where you really are.

Think about it. If you enter a specific destination into the "To" field in Google Maps but don't include a particular starting point in the "From" field, it can't ch...

How do you turn the difference only you can make into an offer, cause, and/or community that serves others?

I struggled to answer these questions when I felt the pull to make a pivot in my life's work.

But I learned the difference only I can make lies in helping people solve the problem I first ha...

What is the path to wisdom?

Here's an approach I'm playing with.

Knowledge => Learning => Intelligence* => Virtue => Wisdom

Let's define our terms.

• Knowledge - the acquisition of information
• Learning - the implementation of knowledge to change behavior
• Intelligence - applying learning to get...

Are you using social media, or is it using you?

My social media expert friends tell me I do social media all wrong.

They send me updates about the algorithm and hacks for creating content that ranks higher and gets more impressions, reactions, and comments.

But here's the thing.

You can't win a ...

Life and living are related, of course.

But the distinctions between the two are worth considering.

Life begins with birth and ends with death.

Living is the quality of your experience in between.

Life requires adequate oxygen, water, nutrition, and a reasonable temperature (98.6°ish).

That’s i...

It often happens in midlife but can happen at any stage of life.

You decide to stop seeking external meaning and motivation about how to live well and look within.

But how do you make the rest of your life your best life?

Here are three time-tested and scientifically vetted steps that have worked...