Witness • Reflect • Invite

personal development Mar 10, 2021
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How do you provide meaningful feedback that helps others help themselves?

It feels generous to turn on lights and open doors for others. However, more powerful advances are made when switches and thresholds are revealed, and someone turns on lights and walks through doorways of their own volition.

Here's a three-step process to help you stop providing answers and advice and instead encourages you to share insight that inspires those you serve to find their own way into a better possibility.

  1. Witness - notice things, see what others don't see, and do so without value judgment, certainty, or attachment 
  2. Reflect - share what you noticed without expectation or an agenda
  3. Invite - encourage the recipient to take a small step deeper or further into potential with a question, not an answer

Teaching, guiding, mentoring, and leading is not about knowing and telling. How can you serve others more generously with a more beautiful question instead of a well-intended instruction? What happens if instead of a roadmap you provide a compass?

Scott Perry, Encore Life Coach

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