Jessica Abel - "Self-compassion is your most powerful tool."

Insight and inspiration for flying higher in the difference only you can make from guests who have appeared on Creative on Purpose Live.

This week’s wisdom comes from a conversation with Autonomous Creative founder, Jessica Abel.

Tune into the entire conversation here.

[JESSICA] "One of the biggest things that I've discovered is that the most powerful tool that, when people take it on, really has an enormous effect is self-compassion."

"So when the inner critic pops up, compassion is your most powerful tool for dealing with that."

"Thinking 'Wow, you know this inner voice is really afraid. I can take care of it.' And having compassion for this part of you, physically afraid and really struggling, even though it sounds so commanding and in charge. Right?'

"Or getting back to the thing of being totally over-committed and, you know, 'I'm so late on this. I'm so late on that,' you know? Especially self-set deadlines, you know? They just slide."

"Constant self-forgiveness about that, because that time is gone. That's gone. You know? There's no..."

"One of the things I teach everybody to do in my groups, I don't know if they actually do it or not, but if you have to-do lists and things go red, you know, things go past due. Go take all those things and take them off past due and put them on either never, like don't assign them to yourselves, that's number one."

"But number two, set the deadlines in the future sometime when you have some chance of being able to do it."

"Past due doesn't tell you anything except that you suck. So, don't let yourself tell yourself that every single time you look at your project management software it's irrelevant and it does not help at all."

"What it does is set you up for a shame spiral where whenever you look at that thing all you want to do is run. Run away screaming. That doesn't help you do the thing."

"If you want to do the thing, get out of a shame relationship by deep and continuous self-forgiveness about whatever you thought was going to happen and didn't happen."

"Because life is life and you're a human being."

[SCOTT] "I love it. Shame is an invitation you do not have to accept, for sure."

Jessica just delivered a powerful reminder about the power of compassion. How are you practicing compassion today?

Scott Perry, Encore Life Coach at Creative on Purpose

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